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Alex Kennedy's avatar

This feels a powerful poem from you. And a format that really hones in the paradoxes I really love this piece. So much said without need for elaboration.

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Love this so much! I've been wrestling with a dichotomy similar to a lot of your lines, I've been calling it top down vs. bottom up. Discipline vs. impulse, reason vs. intuition. But this is far more beautiful than anything I've written on the topic.

I notice the name of the piece, and the final part of the poem, are both about lack of attachment. The act of naming something, creating a bond between you and the named, the act of choice. A lot of the buzzwords, like adaptability, market appeal, highlight optionality, and lack of commitment.

I worry about these impulses that we all have, that seem to be growing in concert. But when I read Ivan Illich talk about how using statistical estimation in medicine is soul-denying, I can't help but disagree. I think it actually is useful to know that smoking takes 6.5 years of your life, on average. On some level, the ability to view yourself in the context of peers, as a statistical average, is helpful. I don't think it's terrible to know how you're perceived, nor even to adjust your actions in order to change this perception. But I see other people act in certain ways, and wonder if we're all taking it way too far.

For instance, I see people who seem to be living their life for their resume, never taking any time off, or making any lateral (let alone downward) moves, lest their narrative be undesirable. That's a symptom, isn't it, this idea that we have a narrative that we must follow? That every action needs a reason, needs to be explicable?

Sometimes I feel like a heretic thinking about these things, rejecting modernity's options. Other times, I feel like a tape recorder, after all, who hasn't complained about dating apps? More people than ever are "market-brained", everything feels like an open buffet, the only choices to be made are about what's optimal. And it's not that these ideas can't be useful, but treating yourself as just another interchangable player in the market seems like a quick way to lose your soul.

I'm not sparing myself in this analysis, half the reason I chose my college major was to keep my options open. I'm no less dissociated, atomized, isolated, than the average person in the 21st century. Hell, probably more than average. And these aren't new problems, Bowling Alone is 40 years old, DFW was 20 years ago, and now we have Jreg.

I'm not sure how to tie this all together, there's something I want to say about the "market-brain", this top-down way of presenting ourselves, the actual advantage of the market being that different paths can be explored, and the growing atomization and lack of community in society. And apologies for getting completely off track from your poem, but to tie it all back together, the ability to "fungibilize" your life, to make it look palatable to others, almost necessitates cutting off your impulses, destroying your dreams. Whose dreams are fully formed? When is intuition explainable? How can you compete in the global marketplace if you're following whims, instead of ruthlessly exploiting your "advantage"?

The beauty of the unsullied market, if you're into that, is that it allows for death. Instead of a failing bank too big to fail, you have small businesses going under. But translate this into daily life, and who wants to die? Most couldn't withstand seeing their small business die, let alone themselves, I know I couldn't. So what do we do, we hedge. We cut off the unprofitable parts of our business, and make sure our numbers always look good for cash flow. Our TAM nowadays appears to be the whole entire world, we're no longer "constrained" by our community. So now we feel the need to be appealing to everybody.

And partially because everybody is trying to appeal to everybody, or at the very least, more of us are trying to appeal to more of us, local communities lose their luster. Why hang out with the locals, they don't even seem that different than anybody else, just less cool. Everybody's fungibility becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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